Life is busy. I get it. If you are a mother I think it’s safe to say that something or someone almost always needs your attention. You give give give and then you reach the end of your day and you realize you have done next to nothing for yourself. You feel depleted and tired. What you ate and drank that day were strictly a matter of convenience (hello left over pb&j’s!) and the only exercise you managed to get were the few minutes your paced the floor trying to get the baby to sleep. Before you know it, it’s bed time and when you wake up you will be required to do it all.over.again. This in noway is meant to negatively reflect on motherhood because it truly is SUCH a blessing! It is actually one I prayed for for some time. That being said, it can be very draining at times.
However, I have a secret to tell you…it doesn’t have to always be this way. You do NOT have to come last and constantly be worn out in order to be a good mother. God does not want us to stop caring about our health the moment our occupation has been changed to “mom”. No where in the Bible or any magazine does it say that it is okay to do that. Your health and happiness matter as much as your husband and children’s! As the old saying goes, “you don’t have to light yourself on fire to keep others warm.” This is so incredibly true! Caring for ourselves as mothers is one of the many ways we can honor God.
Now I can’t write this blog without addressing the fact that so many mothers struggle extremely hard to loose the dreaded “baby weight”. If that is you, please know that you are not alone! You have gone through the miracle of pregnancy but are left feeling anything like yourself. Honestly, so many of us mommies go around stressed to the max day in and day out. Did you know that when our stress hormone “cortisol” is constantly being secreted our bodies have an extremely hard time burning fat? It is a viscous cycle my friend! You owe it to yourself to feel better and not live a life of extreme stress and exhaustion. You must take care of yourself to reach a state where your body is no longer producing excess cortisol. Your body must have a chance to deplete it in order to burn fat. You can loose the baby weight I promise! However, you must first start taking care of YOU once again first! I want to encourage you to take time for yourself again and let the guilt GO. It is vital for your mental, physical and spiritual health momma!
Here are some of the ways you can take care of you while you are taking care of little ones!
PLAN and schedule two activities a week that you find relaxing! This can be a bubble bath, a few minutes alone at a coffee shop with your favorite book or a date with your spouse. Plan it, announce it a head of time to your husband and little ones event and make it happen!
Learn to not overschedule yourself! Simply put, doing too much is not healthy and it becomes extremely overwhelming (hello, excess cortisol)! Pick one to three activities that matter most to you and your family per week and then leave it at that. Some weeks don’t hesitate to just stay home and play catch up around the house and be with your family! You don’t always have to be on the go! That is just what our society tries to tell us.
Schedule one on one time with your kids. How does this relieve stress? Well for me, it relieves the dreaded “mommy guilt” of feeling like I can’t pay attention to each child like I want all the time. Quality over quantity you guys is really what is important! Your kids will love that time with you and you will cherish it as well and not feel so bad when life does get crazy and you have less time with them!
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again...use magnesium oil topically every single day! The first thing to deplete is usually our magnesium stores when we are stressed! Magnesium calms and relaxes us and helps us sleep! Replenish your stores every day and you will feel more at ease and more equipped to handle your daily stressors and work load.
Why do we feel that it is okay to go around depleted and worn thin as mothers? Yes, there are times it is unavoidable and days where you feel that if the kids are alive and fed it has been a good day; But this does not have to be the “norm" you guys! So how do we take care of ourselves too as busy mommies? The answer is simple: you have to make YOU a priority the same way you prioritize your husband, children and work obligations! Did you know that when you take time for yourself you can do and give so much more and actually enjoy your day to day routine? God wants us to treat our bodies with love and value our mental and physical health. This, once again, does not stop when we become mothers. I challenge you today to start taking care of YOU again momma. Not only will you feel better but you will also have more to give back to those you love! Whichever way you look at it, it's a win win!